Of late, I’ve been feeling a bit more battered by the uncertainties in the world and the glaring visibility and vocalization of my imperfections. I write about both our imperfections and the uncertainty in the world in my book: Imperfect in an Uncertain World. The book is a foray into creating a peaceful heart and a nonviolent haven. I am sharing an excerpt from it this week:
We are imperfect beings living in an uncertain world. Our imperfections are what stop us from being authentic. These may be illusions about our self. They may be judgments or deep seated fears. It is not a person that triggers our reaction; rather our illusions, judgments, and fears do. For example, we might have very different political beliefs than another person. We may feel attacked by that person during a conversation. Or, instead of feeling attacked, we might hear what the person is saying, not take it personally, and respond with compassion.
No matter how much we ignore our imperfections, they do not disappear. We do not want to ignore or banish them from our life. Imperfections are tools to help us become our best, authentic self. They are challenges to meet and lessons to learn. Shifting our perspective from imperfections as unwanted flaws to important life tools, we are no longer stuck in feelings of failure and having unattainable expectations for our self.
With this acceptance, our paradigm shifts from viewing imperfections as a bane of our existence to engaging them as vehicles of growth. This is the beginning of self acceptance. Instead of seeing imperfections as personal failures, we reframe these parts of our self. They become opportunities to identify old wounds. This paradigm shift is paramount to healing our woundedness and living nonviolently in an uncertain world.
Once we heal our woundedness, we are longer trapped by imperfections. The window of our soul is cleaned, and, through it our authentic self reflects. With awareness and practice, our personal violence-induced flares lessen. Any acts of violence are met with a self compassionate response. Compassion for others is an outcome of self-compassion. We heal the world by first healing our self.
Vanessa F. Hurst, ms, is a Life Coach through Intuitive Connection, professional speaker, and author who weaves her inner wisdom into all she touches. Her books are available @ www.wildefyrpress.com. Contact Vanessa @ vanessa@intentandaction.com for life coaching, keynotes, programs, and intuitive consultations.
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