Tuesday, October 2, 2018

Opportunity, Possibility, Potential: Practicing Self Compassion


Each morning I wake to silky darkness. Sometimes it wraps me in a void of complete nothingness — a nonattached blank slate upon which to write my day. Other times the darkness is filled with so much joy that I find myself bounding out of bed. Then, there are those other moments — the darkness has an edginess — anxiety about the day unfolding. 

My favorite wakeup call is the first. The stillness offers nothing but a neutral greeting. I feel the power and grace in the world resonating with me. After a few moment of resting in the calm, I rise with assurance ready to greet the day. Sketching on that slate feels effortless.

Then, there is the latter and, by far, my least favorite — those mornings are heavy and edgy. I am torn between burrowing into my covers with a plea of “just five more minutes, please” — or sliding from the bed reluctant to begin the day. In those moments, I am aware of opportunity within uncertainty, the possibility of transformation, and the potential for disappointment. 

Sometimes no matter how much I try during the day, I cannot seems to throw off those inevitable feelings of potential for success become realized disappointment. So what do I do when my hopes and dreams don’t quite meet what I envision? How do I turn my yearning from spiraling despair into the power of hope?

It is easy to metaphorically crawl back under the covers and say we will try another day. It takes courage and curious daring to straighten the quilt, fluff the pillows, and greet the day regardless of the encroaching anxiety and fear. Moment by conscious moment, I meet each opportunity without having any assurance that this time will be the time that I reach past our fears, live with daring, and grasp transformation. I know that each of us tries because even if we do not succeed, we shine the light of our possibility. And, that is more than enough.

Opportunity, possibility, and potential are woven together with self compassion. We recognize that we are not just a reflection of our big moments. Through self compassion, we identify the ways we shine our truest self in the small things. Self compassion means acknowledging when our light is fueled by the small and recognizing that each small moment added to all the others creates not a potential for disappointment but the potential of a life truly lived.  


Vanessa F. Hurst, ms, is a Neural Synchrony™ facilitator, professional speaker, and author who weaves her inner wisdom into all she touches. Her books are A Constellation of Connections: Contemplative Relationships and Engaging Compassion Through Intent & Action. Vanessa assists clients in navigating their life paths with intuition. Contact Vanessa @ vanessa@intentandaction.com for keynotes, programs, and consultations.


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