When juggling, sometimes you just need to let the balls drop. Let them crash to the ground. Be still. Let go. Survey the debris.
I have discovered that I am not a master juggler. Sure, most days I seem to keep the balls in the air, but every once in a while, I drop one or two or three. This slippery balls bounce off my fingertip crashing to the ground. Maybe those falling balls provide a moment of respite and regathering.
What follows may be a good old, messy cry. Those tears release the angst, the fear, the frustration and bring calm. Only in that moment of calm can we really look at the debris littering the ground of our being. With new eyes we are more discerning as we ask our self, “what do we really need?” And, “what do we no longer need?”
Before we answer those questions, we practice self compassion. That alleviation of suffering actually began with that messy cry and our refusal to act as if everything is okay. It continues in every act of kindness toward self. Perhaps we savor a cup of tea or nibble a square of chocolate. We go for a walk. Each act eases our suffering and brings us balance.
Then we answer the questions beginning with what we need; what is working in our life. Focus on the positive first. It lays the foundation for the hard reflection later. Find ways to celebrate what is working — the balls that you want to pick up and juggle yet again. No matter how small or seemingly inconsequential, name it.
Next, ask what you no longer need. Now, this is tough, because we wouldn’t have got to the place of dropped balls if we knew deep inside what we didn’t need, what we are willing to let go. Name it. Even if you believe that you cannot let go, be with your desire to not need whatever is causing suffering. That is the tough part. Trust that in time, when the suffering is rubbed clean, that you will be able to let it go.
Celebrate the fact that you are able to juggle. Now everyone has such an agile way of meeting life. You obviously do. Pick up the balls that need to be in the air and juggle away knowing somehow, some way, you got this.
Vanessa F. Hurst, ms, is an Intuitive, Coach, Catalyst, who uses mindfulness practices and intuition tools to create strategies for personal and relationship transformation. She is a professional speaker & author who weaves inner wisdom into all she touches. Her books are available @ www.wildefyrpress.com. Contact Vanessa (vanessa@intentandaction.com) for life coaching, intuitive consultations, keynotes, and programs.
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