Doubts creep in like water trickling into the crevices in our heart. Each time we ignore them or buy in to their illusion, the temperature of our confidence drops. Doubt droplets turn to ice and widen the crevices of suffering. What is the greatest act of self compassion in these moments? Believing in our self.
With belief in our self, we navigate through those doubts, bridge the crevices, and begin the process of healing the rifts between what is true and what is illusion. This compassionate action begins with self acceptance. It grows each time we refuse to shame or blame our self for our imperfections and reactions.
I believe it is safe to say that we are all imperfect. That, at times, our words and actions come out sideways. Self compassion begins through recognizing that our reactions are less about who we are and more the result of a trigger that catches us unaware. Instead of shaming and blaming our self for our actions we have choices: we can blithely continue on the path unaware, we can acknowledge our actions and get mired in shame, or we can identify the reaction.
Identifying our reaction is the beginning of self compassion. Once identified, we can learn the inherent lesson, forgive our self, and let go of the shame. These are the basis of self compassion. There is nothing easy about the practice of self compassion. We are asked to open our eyes to these parts of our self that we do not like or that cause embarrassment. We are asked to consciously use their opportunities to grow into our truest self.
Self Compassion is an act of self belief. When we believe in our self, we find the materials to build bridges across the crevices of suffering. Walking across these bridges we avoid falling into the traps created by our previous suffering. On the bridge, we can drop seeds of hope and love into the crevices. These eventually heal the cracks in our being that were caused by suffeirng.
Beliefs in our self whispers, “I know what is in my heart. I know who I am. I can befriend my imperfections, love them, and become stronger through them.” This self empowerment sows the seeds of compassionate presence that we ultimately share with the world.
The world is uncertain. Each of us is uncertain. If you are like me, you show your imperfections often. That is why the practice of self compassion is so important. We cannot be a balm to the uncertain world until we heal those parts of our self that are filled with suffering.
Vanessa F. Hurst, ms, is a Life Coach through Intuitive Connection, professional speaker, and author who weaves her inner wisdom into all she touches. Her books are available through www.wildefyrpress.com. Contact Vanessa @ vanessa@intentandaction.com for life coaching, keynotes, programs, and intuitive consultations.
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