Wednesday, August 3, 2016

Filling the Spring of Compassion: Self Compassion



The spring and the stream is beautiful metaphor for the inner life connecting to the external life.  

Every body of water originates from an underground source.  This sources bubbles up on the land.  What begins as a trickle of drops combines; many springs unite forming a great body of water.

Our spring of compassion originates deeply inside of us and is fed each time we act upon our intent to be compassionate.  Spring overflowing, our actions stream from us and mingle with the compassionate presence of others in the world.

Earlier this year as I was walking with a friend, she showed me the origin of the Bear Grass Creek in Louisville, Kentucky.  The Bear Grass flows into the Ohio River that flows into the Mississippi River that flows into the Gulf.  The Gulf becomes one with the Atlantic Ocean which mingles with the other great waters of Earth.

I often compare the flow of Bear Grass with the spring of our intent and the stream of our compassion when I facilitate my compassion programs.  Within each of us is a spring that we fill through our thoughts, words, and actions.  Even during moments of personal drought, compassion drips from the ultimate Source into our spring.  The spring cannot be restored through those drips alone.  Through our acts of self compassion, the spring is nourished.  

How can we practice self compassion?

Exercise.  This form of self compassion engages our body, mind, spirit, and emotions.  Walking or running takes us out of our routine and we experience the world differently as we move our body.

SleepThis may be a brief nap or a couple of extra hours asleep at night.  Sleep makes increases our waking alertness and our dreams may guide us to a greater understanding of what is causing our fatigue.

A Play Day Taking a day off to do something fun recharges us.  This is a true act of self compassion when we set aside our routines and responsibilities and reconnect with our inner self. 

Time with Friends Connecting with your friends in laughter and joy fills both your spring and theirs.  This opportunity allow us to really be with another with no expectations except the desire to deepen the relationship.

Journaling Using both written words and images creates an understanding of your reality.  Entering into deeper reflection, journaling provides an invitation to turn compassion within.

Forgiving.  Filling our life with “should ofs” and “would ofs” deepens our connections to blaming and shaming our self and others.  Forgiving asks that we suspend judgment, acknowledge our woundedness and the wounds of others, accept that hurt happens, and refuse to be bound by suffering.

Awareness.  Self compassion requires that we live in awareness of every moment and take opportunities to side step sabotaging behavior and live in ways that alleviate our suffering.  Only as we begin to alleviate our personal suffering can we be fonts of compassion to the world. 

Self compassion requires that we decide how we are going to live our life.  Will we hold on to the old hurts and wounds?  Or, will we shower our self and others with compassion in order to clear obstacles that prevent our spring of compassion from streaming into the world?

Each self compassionate act soothes us, makes us whole, and brings us to a place where we more readily share compassion with others.  Through this sharing we mingle our compassion with the compassion of the world.

Vanessa is an Intuitive Coach, Community Builder, and Compassionista, and Author of Engaging Compassion Through Intent & Action

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